So you’re due with baby #2?
I bet you’re wondering what comes next. The transition from one to two. What is it going to look like? How will I adjust? How will my firstborn adjust?
You are flooded with all of these new emotions that you did not have with your first. This is such new territory.
What do you do now?
Maybe you are questioning if you can love another one as much as you love your first, or maybe you are filled with fear of going through the postpartum stage again.
Your brain feels like it’s spinning, trying to manage all of these emotions.
Moments with your first while you’re pregnant are going to be followed by this constant little thought in your head of “where is the second going to fit into this” or even accompanied by the guilt of knowing these are the last moments with your first as an only.
All of this is completely normal. You are allowed to be swarmed with the wonder of it all.
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Let me put you at ease, though.
The transition from one to two seems smoother than the transition from zero to one. You’re already in the thick of it, and you’ve already kept one alive for this long. This second one doesn’t seem as scary. It’s not new territory for you this time around.
Your love will only grow. It won’t be splitting love between them. You will love them differently, but you will love them both with every ounce of your being.
Postpartum isn’t fun, no matter what. Maybe you do get hit with the postpartum depression and anxiety again, but you’re more aware this time around and know when to reach out for help. Or maybe you don’t experience it all this time. The fear you’re sitting in now as you grow this next babe in your womb is all fear of the unknown. Rest easy knowing the next phase of life is beautiful . . . and still challenging in its own way.
As for your firstborns? They will need to adjust. It may take some time. They haven’t had to share you before. It is new for them too. But the adjustment period won’t last forever. Give them time and grace, and give yourself the same.
For me, my firstborn was absolutely smitten with the baby, but struggled with having to share me and share the attention.
But after a few days, things began to feel more regulated. Each day is an adjustment still, but overall, baby #2 is fitting right into the life we are living. I hope the same goes for you too, momma!
Whatever emotions you are feeling right now, know they are normal, and know that you are going to be an incredible mom to both of your babies when the time comes. You got this!
For another perspective on becoming a mom for the second time, head over to read “I’m a Second Time Mom and I Feel Like a Rookie.”
